Things No One Warned You About Before Marriage(But You Learn Very Quickly) pt. 2

No one tells you the truth about marriage before you say “I do.”

They talk about love. Commitment. Partnership.

They do not mention:

• Shared bathrooms

• Emotional support snacks

• Or the fact that you will eventually argue about nothing

Let’s fix that.

You Will Argue About Food

Not big meals.
Not holidays.

Snacks.

Who ate it.
Why they ate it.
Why they didn’t replace it.
Why they claimed they “thought it was for everyone.”

It was not.

You’ll Become the Memory Keeper

Someone in the marriage becomes the default holder of:

• Appointments

• Birthdays

• School events

• Life logistics

• Everyone’s emotional needs

The other person?
They remember where their phone charger is.

Balance.

Silence Means Many Things

Silence can mean:

• They’re mad

• They’re tired

• They forgot the conversation already

• They’re thinking about absolutely nothing

You’ll never know which one.
You’ll guess wrong every time.

You’ll Love Them Even When They’re Annoying

Marriage is loving someone deeply while also thinking:

“I need space before I say something that requires an apology.”

And that’s okay.

Because love isn’t about constant harmony — it’s about grace on the messy days.

Marriage Is Built in the Ordinary

Not the big moments.
Not the highlight reel.

But the:

• Grocery runs

• Exhausted nights

• Shared glances during chaos

Marriage is built in the ordinary — and that’s what makes it real.

Xo, Janthina