21 Questions to Ask Your Son

Engaging in meaningful conversations with your son can help strengthen your relationship and encourage him to share his thoughts and feelings. Here are 21 questions that you might consider asking him to facilitate dialogue:

General Well-Being

1. Tell me 2 good things and 1 bad thing about your day? How can we improve that in the future?

2. Is there anything that made you feel frustrated or upset today?

3. What are you looking forward to this week or this month?

Dreams and Aspirations

1. What are your biggest dreams or goals right now?

2. If you could do anything you wanted right now, what would it be?

3. What skill or talent do you want to develop or improve?

Relationships and Friendship

1. Who do you spend the most time with at school and what do you guys do?

2. Do you have any friends who are getting into trouble? How does that make you feel?

3. What about your friends do you like best, least?

Self-Discovery

1. What do you like most about yourself?

2. Are there things about you that you wish others understood better?

3. What are your favorite activities or hobbies right now?

Challenges and Concerns

1. What’s something that’s been bothering you recently?

2. Have you faced any challenges or difficulties lately that you want to talk about?

3. How do you deal with stress or pressure when you feel overwhelmed?

Values and Beliefs

1. What qualities do you admire most in other people?

2. What do you think makes someone a good friend or teammate?

3. Do you know that I love you?

Future Perspectives

1. If you could change one thing in the world, what would it be?

2. What do you want to achieve in the next few years?

3. What’s one thing you hope to accomplish this year?

LAST THOUGHTS...

These are not 21 questions you fire one right after another. These are throughout a week or a month. Asking too many questions at once will make him go into defense mode. After asking these questions, make sure to listen attentively to your son's responses. Show interest and encourage him to elaborate on his thoughts. This approach not only helps you understand him better but also reinforces a sense of safety and trust in your relationship. More parenting articles here.